From Romeo & Juliet to The Bachelor, our society has held up monogamy as a universal desire. From the moment we can understand the world, we are told that romantic, monogamous love is singular. Anything else is abnormal, immoral, or illegal, right?
Yet, at some point in their lives, 1 out of 5 Americans have been in a consensually non-monogamous relationship, such as polyamorous or open relationships (Haupert, Gesselman, Moors, Garcia, & Fisher, 2017). Twenty percent. That’s how many Americans own cats or speak another language other than English at home. You’re more likely to have been in a consensual non-monogamous relationship than to be left-handed or red-headed.
Yet this vast swath of Americans are largely ignored. And if they are considered, they’re stigmatized as deviants and ostracized from polite society (Moors et al., 2013).
In the ONWARD lab, Amy and her team focus on understanding the story of the 20 percent. How does this stigmatization of their love lives affect them? Amy also examines how multiple romantic and/or sexual partners affect trust, satisfaction, sexual health, and happiness.
Along with collaborating therapists, they research inclusive ways to work with clients engaged in consensually non-monogamous relationships in hopes of making their lives better.